Three Powerful Phrases That Will Transform Your Home

We all know that words matter—like, really matter. They have the power to lift someone up or completely ruin their day. In our homes, the words we choose shape the atmosphere, define our relationships, and set the tone for how we love and live together.

I’m a big believer in keeping things simple because when something is simple, it’s sustainable. And let’s be real—life in my house (with eight kids and one adorable husband) is anything but slow-paced. If I make things too complicated, they get lost in the whirlwind of socks, hot dogs, and crayons that fill my ordinary days.

So, if you're longing to breathe fresh air into your home, I have three simple, doable, common-sense phrases that, when applied liberally, just might transform the entire atmosphere of your family life.

1. "I Love You"

Yes, we all know this one, but here’s a challenge—what if the best time to say "I love you" is when your child is showing their absolute worst?

Picture this: your toddler is in full meltdown mode on the kitchen floor. Or your teenager is emoting like a Broadway actor. Or you and your spouse are knee-deep in a disagreement. Now imagine slipping in an “I love you” right in the middle of it.

It’s one thing to say "I love you" when we feel it—it’s another to speak it into the unlovely moments of life and let it do its transformational work. Unconditional love is exactly that—unconditional. It doesn’t wait for the perfect moment; it creates the perfect moment.

2. "I'm Sorry"

Two small words with the power to reset, heal, and restore.

I don’t know about you, but I am far from a perfect mom or wife. I mess up. I jump to conclusions. I say things I shouldn’t. I hurt the very people I love most. But here’s what I’ve learned—repentance is powerful.

When I admit to my kids that I was wrong—when I humbly seek their forgiveness—it does something profound. It builds trust. It teaches them that Mom isn’t perfect, but she’s real. It shows them that the standard in our home applies to everyone, not just them.

Start this early with your kids. Saying “I’m sorry” doesn’t expose weakness—it reveals authenticity. And isn’t that what our children really want? A real, honest, and humble connection with us?

3. "Let's Play"

I once had someone ask me how I was going to keep my kids from resenting all the work of a big family. My answer was simple: Make it fun to be a Claussen.

Yes, there’s work. Yes, there are responsibilities. But we also know how to play. We have dance parties in the kitchen. We throw footballs in the yard. We watch movies together. My husband can turn literally anything into a game (which is equal parts genius and mildly annoying at times).

What do your kids and spouse enjoy? Sprinkle play liberally into the rhythm of your home. Because joy, laughter, and fun have a far greater impact than just a great afternoon—they build lifelong connection.

Keep It Simple

Life isn’t as complicated as we sometimes make it. So, let’s get back to the basics:

I love you.
I’m sorry.
Let’s play.

And then repeat.

May your home be filled with unconditional love, humility, and joy! 💛